So my Grandmother and Uncle are up for a visit. This is my mothers mother, so obviously we wanted to see her but didn't want to engage with the mother. I arranged through FB to meet them for lunch at a nice little place near us. Nanny and Uncle turn up, she looks wonderful, we have a nice meal and everything is going well. We barely mention the mother but have a really nice time.
Anyway after the meal Uncle suggests we go outside for pictures. At this point Nanny grabs the evil twin and asks her why she is being so mean to my mother. Evil Twin explains that it is not that simple and that Mother has a lot to answer for, but of course mother has poisoned Nanny's mind. Evil Twin explains that she said and did some very hurtful things and Nanny says "She doesn't know what she did wrong" and "but she has apologised". The thing is that she hasn't though. Nanny then tells us we are killing our mother and asks if we will be happy when she is dead.
Evil twin can't take anymore and walks away. Which leaves me trying to explain to my 88 year old grandmother what my mother did and why we had to make this choice. She won't listen though and I can't make her. But i stress that mum was very hurtful and she made me ill and that is why we have made this choice. Nanny ends up in tears and Twin and I are in shock.
I want Nanny to know what really happened but its not something you can do in an hour and i don't want to hurt her. How do you tell you last surviving Grandparent that their daughter is completely nuts
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