No really, i've actually lost my voice and haven't been able to talk to anyone in two days. Despite this I still went to work as new sickness policy is very harsh. Lots of miming and emails and notes being waved.
So when I was at the Housing managers Team Meeting / 1:1 apparently my phone went of twice, both times it was mother upset and demanding to speak to me. Beloved Deputy who has enough shit to put up without my family, foolishly answered my mobile and called Twin. Mother then phoned twin and gave her the full show. Twin asked for more details and mother hung up. Twin called her back, got no response. Twin eventually texted and basically told mum she didn't believe it was all physical and there would be some mental issues and she needed to calm down.
So I text mum on the side being all impartial and ask whats wrong, apologising for the text as i can't speak and then coughed up something vile. At lunch, remembering that i can't talk, get a call from mum's mobile. Answer and in my strongest whisper say 'Hello' Mum passes me to some random clearly uncomfortable doctor who says she has a kidney infection and he is giving her antibotics. I whisper my thanks and he passes the phone back to Mum. She says nothing but i hear her shouting at the doctor that she shouldn't have to do that whilst hanging up the phone.
So i update the twin, my voice which was gradually coming back now completely disapeared by the end of that call. I then text mum and say
"Mum thank you for getting the doctors to call me. i've let Twin know. I don't know why he called though. all i asked was what was wrong. if you have an issue with twin speak to her. sorry for the text but as you heard i have little or no voice"
Response "The doc has gone, he left me a prescription for amoxicillan. i should not have to ask a doctor to confirm that i am physically ill. i would not have called either of you but i have a very high temp and felt very ill indeed. twin said that i harrased your dad on Saturday. we spoke am when he said he woul bring them down pm. i thanked him and asked if i could speak to them. he said yes and after speaking to them I again thanked him. When they came down I immediately gave him tea and biscuits and tried to chat to him as well as the kids but he was withdrawn and unresponsive. when the kids were distracted by speaking to big sister i asked if he was ok. he said he wasn't feeling great. i have only seen him behave like that once before which was a few months after we moved to Scotland. He was missing life in Belfast and wasn't sure he had made the right decision, moving us here. there is obviously something bothering him. I think him and KBig sister may have had words xxx"
I told her thats not what I heard but not getting invoved. I actually heard from da and his girl friend that Mum had phoned at eight and woken up the whole house but would not speak to Da and then insisted later that he brought the kids round as they were only there to see her and then taked a load of nonsense at him and the kids. he said he hung up on her twice. he said she didn't look ill.
Anyway my nuetral ground lead to the following text and yes its a long one.
"I just read your text. important sorry but i got a sticker of a text from Twin not long before the Doctor came insisting once again that I was mentally ill and that my previous bug was non exisitent and that i was making up this illness too when I really needed help for my obvious mental illness. This doc didn't know me from Adam but he had read my notes and said that the infection hadn't responded to the trimethoprim so he was giving me amoxicillan to try and clear it. He refused at first to talk to you saying that this was not his role to get involved in family disputes. I told him that Dr Yu had spoken to big sister and he then agreed to tell you what i had been treated for. I done this twice now and important never doing anything so humiliating again. I want you and twin and big sister to believe me but if anyone doesn't then tears too bad. I have had one physical illness after another this winter and everything I have said about it is true. I've just been according to the doctor unlucky. Please forward my texts to twin as i have to try and figure out how to get antibotics xxx ps important really sorry you are ill have you got an appointment with doctors?"
My response was that I had been forwarding her texts an I was going to the drop in surgery the next day.
Kept twin up to date who suggested I again say i wasn't taking sides and to take things up with twin. she has been really supportive with me continuing contact with mum this whole time, even if she doesn't want to herself.
Next message from mother
"I have stuck to our agreement with Big sister, Do you and twin want to continue with this? I only ask because twin is no good at faking it as suggested by big sister. I know that you first loyalty is to twin so I need to know how things stand. twin made it clear in harrased text that i was to leave you both alone. I am really upset. To have been ill so much and feel as physically bad as i do at present is hard enough without being scared to contact my daughters."
My response "How am I supposed to answer this. I'm trying to remain neutral and feel like I am getting pulled in 20 directions at once. I don't know. Give me some time please "
So what do i do now, what do i do
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