So we had the whole palaver with my mothers operation and things have not quite returned to normal and then I find out that Big Sis has banned my father from having the grandchildren overnight and her ex husband has agreed to this. Dad is heartbroken. Big Sis says its because he hit them which is totally a fabrication and that ex husband supports her with this. Ex husband however says itsbecause he thinks Big Sis would try and get custody and he can't fight an expensive court battle.
In the meantime, i don't know what big sister has told her kids but Dad is petrified that she will stop him from seeing them completely. he loves those kids dearly, is devastated that he barely gets to see youngest neice and is sinking into depression. He was told on Monday and spent all of Tuesday in bed which is so unlike him. He she stops him from seeing them it will kill him and i don't think I'll ever forgive her.
I was in tears when I found out and twin was so angry she was all for getting in the car driving up North to Big sis and punching her in the face.
I haven't spoken to big sis at all since and she hasn't tried to contact me. I also know I have to broach the subject with the mother but as she has been in hopsital and then recovery, i haven't done so yet. At some point though she will raise the subject and then I will have to address it. if she knows and supported this decision or at anytime influenced my sister then that will be the last straw.
I love both my parents but that doesn't mean i'm not aware of their flaws and sometimes you can get on with it and sometimes you can't. If my sister thinks she can do this, then she needs to know where I stand. I will do anything to see my neices and newphews but i will not stand idily by and watch her destroy my father's life
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